Thursday, November 13, 2008

True Education

Rabbi Yosef Yitzchok of Lubavitch once told:

A child remains a child. On Rosh Hashanah of 1888, when I was a child of seven and several months, I visited my grandmother and she treated me to a melon. I went out to the yard and sat with my friends on a bench directly opposite my father's window and shared the melon with my friends.

My father called me in and said to me: "I noticed that you did indeed share with your friends, but you did not do it with a whole heart." He then explained to me at length the idea of a 'generous eye' and 'malevolent eye.'

I was so deeply affected by my father's words that I was unable to recover for half an hour. I wept bitterly and brought up what I had eaten of the melon.

"What do you want from the child?" asked my mother. Father replied: "It is good this way. Now this trait it will be ingrained in his character."

Concluded Rabbi Yosef Yitzchok: "This is education."

4 comments:

the sabra said...

His father, the Rebbe Rashab, once said: "Just as it is incumbent upon every Jew, from the greatest scholar to the most simple of men, to put on tefillin every day, in the same way there is an unequivocal duty which rests upon every individual to set aside half an hour each day to think about the education of his children."

rutimizrachi said...

Sigh. I know there is great wisdom here... but when I feel these stories like a kick in the stomach, I am reminded that my dear Rav Menachem Goldberger once told us that each generation is not as strong as the previous generation. Our approach must give the same message over, but with greater gentleness, in keeping with the weakness of the generation. Perhaps the lesson of the Rebbe's father was for his son's generation, and the lesson of the Rebbe's mother was for her grandchildrens' generation.

The Babysitter said...

Very interesting. It does have a big impact, but only when done once in a while. If a parent is always making the child feel that way then they will give up and will just put on the "I don't care" attitude.

But if used sparingly it does great wonders.

Mongrel said...

At the moment I am reading a book about the thoughts of Darwin declared into our modern times.
The subject about sharing was mentioned too, we ourselves think it most reasonable to keep the larger halve ourselves.
Too a most interesting piece about relations, why we choose and how this works out.
An AWFUL good book to give me an insight about "the others".